It’s 2007... I am in a business that I built from the ground up. It had been years in the making, and a dream come true for me... until the doors were opened.
From the outside, my business looked like Shangri-La... an oasis. But internally, it was full of lies; dysfunction and back stabbing. I was working with a business partner who could rationalize the most unethical behavior. My talent and abilities were being undermined and self-doubt crept in. The negativity was literally eating a hole in me, and I was constantly getting sick! I did not understand how people could be so cruel to one another and justify it.
I went to my husband and told him I was leaving the business and wasn’t sure what I wanted to do. I was not sure if I wanted to stay in the health and fitness industry. I knew if I stayed where I was at, I would surely die. The job was sucking the life out of me. He totally supported my decision to leave.
When I left, malicious gossip began to float around, and I started hearing about it. The drama was still continuing to affect me even after leaving. I was having a hard time healing from the loss of my dream, until one day someone said to me:
“Their opinion of you, is none of your business. Keep walking your walk and continue to be true to yourself.”
When I heard this, a sense of relief washed over me. It was like someone applied ointment to an open wound. Those words helped me let go, so I could heal. I was relieved of the responsibility of responding to all of the negative talk I was hearing. I allowed myself to truly let it go! There was a huge sense of closure... it truly was none of my business.
I use this wonderful advice to this day, and have even taken it a step further. If they are talking about you, then you must be pretty important! Honestly, you are never going to have everyone agree with you, or even like you. Each person has their own opinion of how you are living, but if you are true to yourself and doing what you know is right for you and your life, you will be happy and at peace... both equally important!